You can’t blame a writer for what a headline writer comes up with.
So pity poor Tara Parker Pope at The New York Times, whose great article about how successful couples sustain each other’s growth over the years got the headline:
The Happy Marriage is the ‘Me’ Marriage
Several of my friends read the article (linked below) , which was the most e-mailed that day, and we all agreed: it didn’t say what the headline did. And we also agreed that we agreed with the article. Successful couples support each other in attaining their dreams. Marriage isn’t for “me.” Sometimes it’s about “we” — because we have shared goals and aspirations that we’re working toward together.
But sometimes it works very well for “thee and me” — using that wonderful Germanic family version of the second person singular pronoun — and best of all when “thee and me” become two and three, with God in the lead.
“But a married man is concerned about the affairs of this world—how he can please his wife … a married woman is concerned about the affairs of this world—how she can please her husband.” (1 Cor. 7: 33 ff)
How do you think marriage works best?
- Sustainable Love – Tara Parker-Pope on Happy Marriages – NYTimes.com (nytimes.com)
- Judith Wallerstein: What Goes Wrong with Second Marriages? (huffingtonpost.com)
- Are Our Romantic Expectations Too High? (marieclaire.com)
- My Sustainable Marriage (natashawilliams.wordpress.com)