Visiting ‘Home’ After My Mother’s Death

In 30 days, it will be two years since my mother died. During the first year, I visited home three times. This was written the first time I was in the house with just my father and our memories.

My mother was a shelf-stocker: she bought on sale and filled pantry and basement shelves with canned goods and a freezer with the more perishable items. It took my father six months after my mother’s memorial service to eat all of the Cheerios she had squirreled away. Then he found two more huge, warehouse store-sized boxes in another cabinet. Continue reading

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Carlene Byron:

The wilderness has oasis. And freedom. And others who have chosen the wilderness over captivity.

Originally posted on Wars of Grace:

There’s a quote I love that represents a life lesson I’ve been learning the past few years…

falling apart... actually falling into place-2-2-2



‘Falling Apart’ became very real to me a few years ago when I hit rock bottom…  reached empty… at the end of myself… and the end of decades of denial.

Denial that the marriage covenant I had vowed to uphold and give my heart and whole life to was anything but a two-way covenant.

Although a man laid his head next to mine each night, although my children called someone ‘dad’, although he did his part providing us all a place to call home, I was single-handedly, single-heartedly alone in love.

Whatever love I gave freely was taken, seldom returned, and only with an agenda in tow.

Whatever love I hesitated in giving was guilted, shamed, smooth talked from my grasp.

I was alone and, after…

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Why the Unity Church Didn’t Work for Me

A friend of a friend is thinking about getting involved in a local Unity Church. I can’t give the Unity Church a bad recommendation: I spent time there myself. What I can say is that for a person who thinks, Unity falls short of useful answers very fast. It’s a good place to learn why some things are not true. Continue reading

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Patrick Kennedy’s #1 Tip for Beating Depression: Love Your Neighbor

Sen. Edward Kennedy, D-Mass. right, poses for a picture with his son, Rep. Patrick Kennedy, D-R.I., at the 2009 inauguration of President Barack Obama. AP Photo by US Sen. Gordon Leahy of Vermont.

Sen. Edward Kennedy, D-Mass. right, poses for a picture with his son, Rep. Patrick Kennedy, D-R.I., in this AP photo by Sen. Patrick Leahy, D-Vt.

Former US Senator Patrick Kennedy, who has bipolar disorder and has also abused alcohol, told bphope magazine the best advice he ever got was this depression coping strategy he learned from his father, the late US Senator Ted Kennedy:

“I was at home on a family vacation and feeling sorry for myself, kind of a sullen teenager thing. My dad took me aside and suggested that I go around to all the aunts and cousins and friends and ask what I could get them to drink. They all smiled at me and thanked me, and I immediately felt better.”

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Miracles Really Do Happen


Receding tide off Haverigg Beach (Andrew Woodhall) / CC BY-SA 2.0
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